This might bring some trouble...
Well well...what did i see on tonight's Extra (channel 9's slander/how to save money on your phone bill/abuse the random crim. show) but a preview for tomorrow's take on their cynical view of the world....and what did i see?
"The Death of Chivalry"
Well good people, first some background to the story.
The Middle Ages brought light to chivary itself. the ages themselves were considered to have been brought around about the time of the fall of the Roman empire. T'was an age of knights in shining armour and lots of conquest (supposedly to free the holy lands of Palestine from Muslim domination - sort of like the Bush war on Iraq only the bastard wants oil, he doesnt give a flying fuck about the dirty sand-dwellers).
More importantly, this period in time brought about the knight. This noble man, the knight, was a defender of the freedom who realized the perfect fusion of the religious and the military spirit -chivalry. All knights were 'sposed to take the knightly vow and this (for the purpose of the blog) gave the knights a code of manners, ideals, and aims. Key tenets were those like loyalty, fair play on the battlefield, honour and courtesy (like givin' the weak a fair go). It was a set of limitations which the strong and mighty placed upon themselves to set a good example to the weak an' feeble...ie the poor shits who put food on the knights table every night. More to the point, chivalry was celebrated in literature of the time and talked up quite a bit, which led it to survive the middle ages and be expected upon all modern men.
Supposedly, chivalry nowdays is more related to how we dress - that it's respectable; conversation - expected to be cultured and free from slang or swearing; respect for women; hospitality to guests and the like; and general courtesty - doing things like opening doors for chicks, cleaning the mess you make, etc
The women's rights movement has brought about a sort of equality among the sexes....unwittingly challenging the need for chivalry, as it places women as "poor and defenceless people" that need to be helped to do things.. It makes women different and unequal to put them on a pedestal - it reinforces traditional power relationships. It plays up the rightist/whore extremes of stereotypes where it is ok to treat a whore like dirt. It ultimately puts women into a box that constricts and confines their potential. Through all this women have been continually seen as the victims of the two sexes, and some women have seen this immunity to be an opportunity to misuse the status, challenging men and declaring them 'discriminating' should they try to put the uppity women in their places.
These days, with the occurence of terrorisim, liability corporate scandals and mistrust in general...it seems an unlikely time when chivalry is pretty much dead and gone, even though it is badly needed. Who have we to blame but the women's rights movements?
Now brought to the current day, where women have by all reasonable views, created a double standard. That they asked for equal rights, but still expect to be treated like a princess and payed for everywhere they go, have doors opened, it goes on. Now i know mosy blokes can be lazy sometimes (or most times) but how's this for equal rights ladies? you open your own door, or better yet, open ours! maybe YOU could pay for us guys on a date sometime? challenging the idea of women's rights? no, just supporting it. hate to say i told you so....
Dont get me wrong, i have a tremendous respect for women in general - look at how i treat Jess, but someone had to raise these questions.
Til next time.
posted by Dave @ 7:30 PM
4 Comments:
Wow! While still in school, I was just dealing with reading, playing basket ball and listening to music - I don't think I had the brains to think that way... :-)
You couldn't have placed it better Dave - i totally agree. You see, thing is, that feminism shouldn't exist any more, as a theory. I mean, there used to be a time, when the suffragettes had every reason to protest. Women had to make their breakthrough! Those times were hard and unfair and all that. But in 2005? Apart from some Arabian countries, the western world is a... women's world actually - all the executives, all managers, all killer CEO's and MD's and Gm's, all bossy types are women. In order to take revenge for ages of being out cornered women throw themselves in a battle with no actual opponent: they want to prove their worth; they want to be feminine and sexy; they want to have a great, flourishing career; they want to be seen as colleagues/partners; they want to be seen as sexy women; they want to be feared; they want to be loved and flirted; they want to become wives; mothers; bosses; lovers; Have mercy!!!!!!!! You can't be all that. Chill out...
Each sex must have its own part. Yes, we are equal but... no, we are not "equal". We are different. We are men - you are women. We are not superior - but we are not the same. You have attributes we don't. We need to combine yours and ours in order to have the best possible combination - but there is no competition. If I make more money than my wife, let's say, that doesn't mean I am more capable than here. If we decide that because of a natural talent she has, she will be the one who will earn lots of money, then the roles will be reshuffled. But I don't want the woman I love to become equal to the point of becoming one of the same. I don't want to be mates with her. I want to really open the door for her, and pick her up with my car and make all the usual surprises etc etc. Yes, I don't mind being driven around the city in a girlfriend's car and, yes, I do appreciate some change every now and then. But I don't want to lose my part. It's not the best part - it's just MY part, the man's part, that's why I got it. Why on earth would anyone like that to change????
It's like us saying that is unfair we cannot have the experience of giving birth to a child or have soft and smooth skin...
But I am afraid all modern society's challenges have disoriented women who cannot put priorities. But you cannot do everything and achieve the whole lot. Example: if a family has a stable income and the lady doesn't need to work... she won't accept it. Personally, if I had the chance, I wouldn't mind not having a day job. Yes, I know the house limitations can be frustrating but just because you don't have a nine to five schedule [although most women prefer the nine to nine, exhausting jobs in order to impress themselves and have later on every reason to nag nag nag...], you are nothing than a housekeeper. Then again... it's not by accident that usually it's the men who have hobbies, passions, addictions and weaknesses in general but I wouldn’t like to get started on that.
I hope that makes sense. If u thought I was unfair and sexist... then, most probably you are a woman who doesn't get laid that often. There I said it. Now you have every reason to dismiss me.
Gosh!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S. And it’s funny that, deep inside, every woman STILL actually waits for that knight is shining armour [white horse preferable]. Oh well…
Oh, and Berna, if I may say so, yes you are right - it's not fair that if a guy sleeps around is a stud but a girl is a slut if she does the same.
However, even if some people really try to be post sexual liberation nihilists... I am afraid you just cannot compare that.
I am not saying the usual cliche that in a relation ship, a man can fool around a little because it is in his nature, whereas his lady must sit at home and wait for him to come back so she could serve him his dinner, not at all. I find this disgusting. After all, it's not your partner you cheat on, it's the things you feel about her/him that got quiestioned in the process.
BUT [and that's a giant BUT], Berna, you adn I are not the same. I am 31 and still like to play playstation games. You can call me immature, as most women would do. I'd say I am just a guy. I cannot understand why women call men imamture - it's just a nature. That is why we get to play with our children - because boy will always be boys. If you want father figures for your children - that's fine. But if you want a father fgure within your perfect lover... well, guess who's being irrational!!!
I mean, when you get to my age, you will think of only one thing: motherhood [there are only minor exceptions to the rule and, psychologically speaking, most of them need professional help sooner or later]. If you have a problem with that, if you hate nature's calling, that's not my problem. But it is yours. And I suggest you sort it out.
[Hey, obviously you are not targeted. You are way too young to have dome mistakes, hehehe...]
good points everyone. a discussion without need for the shit that usually goes with blogs *pats everyone on back*
thanks for the comments everyone :)
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